Long day

So yesterday I drove 300 miles (with child) and then had the "youth bells" or whatever, and then the adult bells. We are playing in church on Sunday - why is it that some people just don't show up??? Or casually mention that, oh yeah, I'm going out of town this weekend... It isn't like they didn't know we had a performance, I hate that about church groups. So many other things are really great, but that drives me crazy. So at the rehearsal I asked the people who did show up if they were going to be gone before Easter...(which I have repeatedly done) and TWO of them said yes! Argh.